In elementary school, friendship is as simple as having the same favorite color. College friendships can take root in philosophical discussion or drunken heart-to-hearts. But as you venture out into the wilderness that is adulthood, connecting with kindred spirits seems impossible. People are busy, once-close friends now live hundreds of miles away and approaching strangers is not as appealing as it once was.

Like most good things in life, friendship does not come easy. Sweat, tears and determination are key factors in the quest to find friends fit for fondue parties (because we all know fondue is the Fireball of formal adulthood).

Join the Hunt

Now that you have found your dream entry-level job, shift from job hunting to friend hunting. Of course, you have to dress for the safari. Put on a welcoming ensemble and head to a popular café. Nothing induces friendship quite like pastries and coffee. This is not to say that this tactic will always work, but it is a good place to start. Additionally, these things take time. Revisit your favorite locations until you become a regular. People are drawn to those that appear sociable and connected. Become the type of person that you want to befriend, and you will have greater success.

Network

With the bravery of childhood long gone, inhibition prevents adults from reaching out to strangers. This is why bonds are often built on the foundation of mutual acquaintance. Utilize your existing relationships to discover potential friendship candidates. Though Mary from accounting might not be fondue-worthy, perhaps her cousin is. Networking events are also ripe for the friendship picking. Attend with the mindset of finding that perfect partner for pro-wrestling nights.

Establishing new friendships is intimidating as an adult, but if you actively seek people, exhibit friendliness and take chances, you are destined to find your next BFF. Remember, most adults are on the same hunt, so get out of your comfort zone and find the Chewbacca to your Han Solo.